“All humans are stuck in the vicious
cycle of money, power and sex” quoted by my teacher in one of my self-development
classes. I began to reflect on his statement. He meant we all humans have issues
only in one of the above three areas of life. Is that true?? I began to explore
this; during my counselling sessions when I use to make notes I use to keep
this statement of money, power and sex in my head. Here is what I have
experienced.
Either people were stuck with
issues related to money like “I have financial issues”, “I don’t have enough”, “I
want more money”, “My salary is not enough” , “the family is not happy because
I don’t give them enough money” etc.
There was no content feeling with the current earnings/money status. Happiness
was attached to the earnings of an individual. This made me reflect; am I stuck
here too??? Then there was a self talk
which said “There is enough for all in this universe” and that is so true there
is enough for all; when we need something it is given to us; I strongly believe
that the universe takes care of all our material needs and if it is not given
at that point to us that means it was not needed.
Power: Human seeks position,
respect “I am so and so” “I am something” all the time naming our self our
positions, our achievements etc. Here is what the fact is; we were born out of
nothing and we will be nothing; this is just the journey of being. What I have observed
is when one gets stuck with power; then the person faces arguments, fights,
separation, humans can go to an extent of killing someone to fulfil their
desires of money, power and sex.
Most of us are conditioned to not
use the word ‘sex’, as it is not good to talk about it openly, I am glad that
today most of us talk and discuss issues and concerns related to sexuality.
When one get stuck with the issues of sexuality, the journey of lie begins, one
starts to cheat and of course rape incidents; forcing the person to have a
physical relationship for the fulfilment of sexual desire.
This was my understanding but then
I came across a story of a person, who had everything, lots of money, good
power and position and also a soul mate relation. He was still feeling stuck
somewhere. Where was he stuck?? Why was he not happy?? That’s when I started exploring
the ‘BEYOND’.
What do humans seek for?? What is
beyond money – power – sex? A thought of Buddha crossed my mind. What did he
want? He had everything. What he was seeking was peace. This is what humans want; this is beyond all
money-power-sex. I have experienced
peace through acceptance of oneself and others. We are very comfortable with
someone who accepts us the way we are, we experience peace.
Money-power-sex keeps us busy and
distracted but all we need is peace and then nothing matters. The calm mind and
soul makes the journey easier and peaceful. The state of ‘ananda’ true
happiness.
Let me also add this, it is not
easy to heal self or even someone else who is stuck at one of the above areas.
We all seek peace that is the true desire of each soul; the difference is that
we all have our own journey and a rollercoaster ride to experience that peace.
There is no competition to reach peace it’s just each of our journeys to reach
that state at its own pace. We all are learning and evolving to achieve that
true happiness.
The biggest question is HOW??
With whatever experience I have I
can say that we just need to trust the nature; as it know how to take care of
all our needs. The important thing is to surrender and trust this nature, which
is difficult, I understand.
But once that trust and surrender
happens the true happiness ‘ananda’, the true peace and love will be
experienced and that is BEYOND.
27/02/2014 Thursday 7:46PM
